We all want magical relationships that inspire us to grow into better people, but here is the truth.  The Universe isn’t going to just drop something in your lap because you want it.  You have to meet the Universe half way and create it for yourself.  If you are bored with your current relationship or plan on entering a relationship with a new person, don’t be afraid to take a hold of the direction you wish the relationship to go.

You are the driver of your experience in life, and thankfully this means that you get to choose the life you want to live.  Maybe all you want is a person you can spend time with, and it doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary or grand.  That is totally fine. But some of you want a taste of what a relationship can be like when two conscious evolved individuals come together with the intention of creating something magical.

Here are some super essential ways that you can either create a spiritual partnership in your current relationship or start one with a future partner:

1) Turn your fights into solutions

We all want to have happy, healthy relationships with people we care about.  But it seems that we have fallen under a false belief thanks to media and culture that fighting in relationships is a sign that your relationship is “toxic”.  Because we think fighting in relationships is a bad thing, we avoid it or tell ourselves we have to leave the relationship if fights start to happen.

Don’t think of fights as being these horrible overwhelming obstacles in your life.  Take them on together as a team and work together towards a solution as a team.  The goal should always be to improve your relationship somehow after a fight by improving clarity, honest, and transparency.

Breakdowns are the main doorway to breakthroughs in life, and fights in a relationship is a really healthy way for both of you to arrive at a solution together and create a union as souls out of your moments of disharmony.  Don’t be afraid to dig deep into yourself and into your partner to find the root causes of behaviour, reactions, fears, and habits by asking questions like “Why do you always react that way?”.

2) Spend time meditating, in nature, or watching documentaries together

If you want your relationship to be a spiritual partnership, you have to be growing together as minds just as much as souls.  If you are heavily interested in researching alternative medicine, spiritual sciences, or UFO encounters and your partner shares no interested in anything like that, this will result is an imbalance at some level because you will be vibrating at two very different places due to your new knowledge base and belief systems.

It’s really important to make it a conjoined effort to grow together in all areas of life, mind body and soul.  If you are adopting a vegetarian diet, talk to your partner to see if they are open to trying it for a week with you.  Ask your partner to watch a documentary that intrigued you.  If they value you and growing with you long term, they should be more than open to experiencing things that mean something to you.

The key here is spending quality time that results in you guys sharing a new vibration grounded in new knowledge you have picked up together.  Having your belief systems and ideologies broken down and built back up with new information is what evolution is all about, and to share that experience with your partner will bring you closer together because you have navigated that mental terrain together.

3) Get to know each other’s energy field

So you know your partner on a deep level from spending so much time with them and experiencing so many ups and downs, you’ve grown with them through solution-based arguments with each other, and you spend time expanding your minds together with new information.  The final piece of the puzzle is to get to know that person’s energy field in an intimate way.  To do this will require a lot of presence on your part, and will require you to be in touch with your own body, emotions, and energy field.Your energetic state is essentially a combination of your conscious/subconscious thoughts, your feelings, attitudes, and beliefs.  When someone sits close to you, they are literally getting closer to you, your insecurities, your pain, your demons, your secrets, and your soul.  Instead of always “doing” something together as partners, try just spending time laying down together really close in silence marinating in each others energy fields and allowing yourself to be vulnerable with that experience.

This will bring you extremely close as people because you will have experienced and accepted one another in your most raw and pure state of being.  You may find that either you or your partner is unable to be that close and raw with someone in silence because of past traumas they may have, insecurities they may have, or other energetic blockages.  But that’s the beauty in sharing an experience like this is that is brings everything to the surface, including your true feelings for each other at the conscious and subconscious levels.

Or try bringing consciousness into your sex life and direct your attention at conjoining with them as a soul when you are most intimate with them.  Just as much as you interact with them at a mental and physical level you should be interacting with them at an energetic level.

To sum up, use your fights as an opportunity to understand yourself and your partner better, grow together mentally and intellectually, and become vulnerable within each others energy fields.  These three ingredients will make a world of difference in turning your relationship into a spiritual partnership.

Hope this helps!

Steven Bancarz, 

Team Spirit